If you’re having a hard time relating to your aging parents after you’re grown, take heart. You’re not alone. It’s not easy making the transition from being totally taken care of by your parents to caring for your parents in their elderly years. This role reversal can be hard on your parents as well, especially when discussing difficult subjects about their lifestyle and care. The following topics may be sensitive, but essential to your loved ones’ happiness and welfare in their elderly years.
After a certain age, seniors may no longer be able to drive safely due to diminishing driving skills. Relinquishing this freedom can be difficult for someone who’s been driving for 50+ years. By broaching the subject with care, however, you can help your parents understand the need. It also helps to plan alternative transportation to make it easier for your parents to adjust to a non-driving lifestyle. You can volunteer to drive them places or arrange for a substitute driver. Plan ahead for outings, appointments, grocery shopping, etc. so your loved ones know they’ll still be able to get around and are not forgotten.
Estate planning enables your parents to make provision for distributing their assets upon their demise. If your parents have valuables such as a home, family heirlooms, investments or a substantial amount of savings, encourage them to make a will or testament stating how they want these items divided after they’re gone. Putting this in writing will ensure their wishes are respected. A written will can also avert family disputes, especially if your parents have a large estate.
As your parent’s age, it’s important to have a conversation about their long-term care. By planning ahead, they’ll be able to make wise decisions that benefit their future. Ask your parents what their vision is for the future and talk about ways you can help. If they want to move to a senior retirement community, explore options together and help them on moving day. Look for communities that offer transition care such as assisted living and nursing home for when your parents need help with their physical needs. Consider your parent’s financial resources when making these plans, so they can get the most from the funds they’ve saved.
Tips for Healthy, Two-Way Communicating
Keep in mind that communicating is a two-way street. If you think you know what’s best for your parents, think again. Your loved ones may have an opposing viewpoint. By listening to them, you can get a better understanding of their wants and needs. You may not agree on everything, but you should respect each other’s opinions and be willing to compromise on important decisions that need to be made. When discussing important matters, speak slowly and clearly, without being condescending, so your parents understand what you’re saying.
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